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• Kingdom Wisdom Part 2 with Discussion Guide

  Kingdom Wisdom Part 2 Discussion Guide

  This discussion guide is based on Kingdom Wisdom Part 2, a message from the Kingdom Wisdom series at Keys Vineyard. The sermon explores Matthew 7:5–6 and the difference between judgment and discernment.

  Summary

  Kingdom wisdom begins with humility. Before focusing on the speck in another person’s eye, Jesus calls us to ask, “Father, what do You want to do in me?” From there, Matthew 7:6 teaches that discernment is different from judgment. Discernment recognizes what is precious—such as the gospel, truth, wisdom, people, and time—and understands that not everyone is ready to receive what is offered.

  Jesus did not teach His followers to label or reject people. Instead, He modeled discerning love: He loved everyone, but He did not entrust Himself to everyone; He spoke, asked questions, told stories, remained silent, and sometimes waited to share truth until people were ready. Kingdom wisdom requires dependence on the Father. Rather than assuming we know what someone needs, we pause, listen, ask God for wisdom, and trust the Holy Spirit to work in people’s hearts.

  Intro Prayer

  Father, thank You for Your wisdom and patience with us. Help us to approach one another with humility rather than judgment. Teach us to recognize what is precious, to listen before speaking, and to depend on You for wisdom in every relationship and conversation. Give us hearts that love people well while trusting You to do the work only You can do. In Jesus’ name, amen.

  Ice Breaker

  Have you ever received advice that you were not ready to hear at the time, but later understood or appreciated? What changed?

  Key Verses

  • Matthew 7:5–6 — Jesus calls His followers to deal with the plank in their own eye and not give what is sacred to those who will not receive it as sacred.
  • Matthew 13:45–46 — The kingdom of heaven is compared to a pearl of great value.
  • Proverbs 9:7–9 — Correction is received differently by mockers and by the wise.
  • John 2:23–25 — Jesus loved people, yet He did not entrust Himself to everyone.
  • John 16:12 — Jesus had more to say to His disciples, but they were not yet able to bear it.
  • James 1:5 — God generously gives wisdom to those who ask Him.

  Questions

  1. Why is it important that Matthew 7:6 follows Jesus’ teaching about removing the plank from our own eye? How does humility shape discernment?
  2. What do you think is the difference between judgment and discernment? Why can those two ideas sometimes be confused?
  3. The sermon describes the gospel, truth, wisdom, people, time, and influence as precious. Which of these do you most need to steward more carefully right now?
  4. Why is it tempting to explain “harder, louder, and longer” when someone does not receive advice, help, or truth? What can happen when we try to force a response?
  5. Jesus loved everyone, but He did not entrust Himself to everyone. What does this teach us about love, healthy boundaries, and access to our lives?
  6. In John 16:12, Jesus waited because His disciples could not yet bear what He wanted to tell them. How can waiting to speak be an expression of wisdom rather than withholding love?
  7. Think about a current relationship or difficult conversation. What questions might you ask the Father before speaking, correcting, helping, or stepping back?
  8. How can we remain available, loving, and prayerful toward people who are not ready today without writing them off or trying to control their response?

  Life Application

  This week, practice a pause before responding in significant conversations. Take a breath and ask the Father for wisdom. Before offering advice, ask whether it was requested. Before entering an argument, ask whether it will actually help. Before correcting someone, ask whether your motive is their good or your need to be right.

  Use this prayerful question as a guide: “Father, is this the right thing to say, at the right time, in the right way?” If the answer is unclear, continue to love, pray, remain available, and trust the Holy Spirit. For continued study in Scripture and spiritual formation, consider the resources available through Online Bible Institute.

  Key Takeaways

  • Kingdom wisdom starts with humility and personal self-examination.
  • Discernment is not the same as judgment.
  • Truth, wisdom, the gospel, people, and time are precious and should be stewarded carefully.
  • We cannot force someone to receive what they are not ready to receive.
  • Jesus modeled discerning love through wise timing, healthy boundaries, and dependence on the Father.
  • When we lack wisdom, God invites us to ask Him.
  • Discernment does not write people off; it continues to love, pray, and trust the Holy Spirit.
  • Kingdom wisdom is not merely knowing what is true, but knowing how, when, and where to faithfully live it.

  Ending Prayer

  Father, make us people of Kingdom wisdom. Forgive us for the times we have spoken too quickly, tried to force outcomes, or valued being right more than loving people. Help us to listen to You, recognize Your work in others, and respond with humility, grace, truth, and discernment. Teach us when to speak, when to wait, when to help, and when to trust You with what we cannot change. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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• Kingdom Wisdom Part 1 with Discussion Guide

  Kingdom Wisdom Part 1 Discussion Guide

  This discussion guide is based on the Kingdom Wisdom Part 1 sermon from Keys Vineyard, preached from Matthew 7:1–5. The message calls followers of Jesus to practice humility: before focusing on another person’s speck, we must allow God to address the plank in our own eye.

  Summary

  Jesus’ command, “Do not judge,” does not mean His people should never discern right from wrong. Rather, Jesus warns against a judgmental spirit that assumes the worst about others, ignores context, and places itself in God’s role. Kingdom wisdom discerns without condemning, speaks truth without losing love, and seeks restoration rather than simply exposing someone’s failure.

  The sermon emphasizes that believers often want justice for others while seeking grace for themselves. Jesus calls us to remember the grace and mercy God has given us. As we honestly examine our own hearts, grace changes how we see people: superiority gives way to compassion, condemnation gives way to humility, and criticism becomes an opportunity for gentle restoration.

  Intro Prayer

  Jesus, quiet our hearts and slow our minds as we meet together. Give us wisdom that does not rush to judgment but pauses to love. Search us, show us where we need Your grace, and teach us to see others through the mercy You have freely given to us. Shape the way we speak, see, and love. Amen.

  Ice Breaker

  Think about the window-and-mirror illustration from the sermon. Is it easier for you to notice what is happening in other people’s lives or to honestly examine your own heart? Why do you think that is?

  Key Verses

  • Matthew 7:1–5 — Jesus warns against judging others while ignoring the plank in our own eye.
  • John 7:24 — “Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly.”
  • James 2:12–13 — Mercy triumphs over judgment.
  • Galatians 6:1 — Those who live by the Spirit are called to restore someone caught in sin gently while watching themselves.
  • Psalm 139:23–24 — David asks God to search his heart, reveal offensive ways, and lead him in the everlasting way.

  Questions

  1. What stood out most to you from this message, and why?
  2. How would you explain the difference between discernment and a judgmental spirit? Why is that distinction important for followers of Jesus?
  3. The sermon said it is possible to know, believe, and practice the right things while still treating people terribly. Why can this happen, and what helps prevent it?
  4. Where do you see the tendency to seek “justice for them” and “grace for us” in everyday life? How have you seen this tendency in your own responses?
  5. Jesus does not say the speck is unreal. How does recognizing that sin and failure are real help us avoid the opposite error of pretending that nothing needs to be addressed?
  6. Why might a person be completely right about an issue but still be completely unhelpful? What does Galatians 6:1 teach about the goal and posture of correction?
  7. What might “plank work” look like in your life right now? What attitudes, motives, wounds, habits, or patterns could God be inviting you to examine?
  8. The sermon encouraged us to pause before criticizing, posting, repeating information, or assuming someone’s motives. Which kind of pause would be most challenging and most helpful for you this week?

  Life Application

  Choose one situation this week in which you may be tempted to criticize, make assumptions, repeat something you heard, or respond quickly online. Before responding, pause and pray: “Father, is there some plank work that I need to deal with first?”

  Then pray Psalm 139:23–24 in your own words. Ask God to reveal what is happening in you and to help you respond with both truth and love. If a difficult conversation is needed, consider how you can pursue restoration gently rather than simply proving that you are right.

  For continued encouragement in living out Jesus’ teaching in everyday relationships, explore the resources at Church Encourager.

  Key Takeaways

  • Kingdom wisdom begins with humility and honest self-examination.
  • Jesus calls His people to discern what is true without condemning people.
  • The measure we have received from God is grace, so mercy should shape how we respond to others.
  • Being right is not the same as being helpful; correction should seek gentle restoration.
  • Plank work is ongoing. Believers continue to need Jesus and His grace every day.
  • A simple pause can interrupt harsh judgment and create room for humility, wisdom, and love.

  Ending Prayer

  Father, search us and know our hearts. Show us any offensive way in us, and lead us in the way everlasting. Forgive us for the times we have been quick to judge, slow to listen, and unwilling to recognize our own need for grace. Help us discern without condemning, correct without despising, and speak truth without losing love. Make us people who restore gently and reflect Your mercy to those around us. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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